Although 2019 was filled with loss and challenges, it allowed me the opportunity to look at my life and reflect on what changes needed to be made to feel better about my future. Realistically, life is an ongoing journey and often times one must find the courage to reroute their path.
I’m in the process of taking charge and moving forward within certain areas of my life. It’s definitely a challenge, however, I owe it to myself and well-being to be happy. If you are stuck or have found yourself in the middle of a roadblock, I hope you will be encouraged to take the necessary steps to press forward.
A wise woman recently said to me, you need to “tear it down and rebuild.” This has truly stuck with me, and since that time, I find myself reciting the words aloud throughout the day. In fact, during moments of doubt, this inspiring mantra has empowered me to keep going. The words really resonate from within and paint a picture of some of my personal life challenges.
More specifically, how tragedies like those created by Mother Nature mirror real-life situations. For-instance the shake-up of an earthquake and severity of a hurricane. Both have a tear down effect and create devastation to lives and communities. However, following the teardown, one must find the courage to rebuild. That’s the hardest part. Close your eyes and think about one of your personal life catastrophes and you’ll get the picture!
Recently, while viewing old family photographs I stumbled across pictures taken during my teenage years and early 20s. It was refreshing to think about how far I have come. My mother and father were so wise, they always encouraged my sisters and me to be assertive and not let others bully or force their decisions on us. Over the years, I have met several individuals with controlling behaviors. I believe these types of individuals have the right to try to enforce their way of thinking on others, however, experience has taught me that only you can relinquish that power. Remember, others will only do what you allow them to. The next time you are challenged, kindly assert yourself. I’m confident you will feel better.
Lastly, each day continue your journey forward. Don’t complain about where you are, just commit to where you want to be. Set goals. When you reach one, let it be your fuel to reach the next one. Keep the faith and always remember:
“You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. No doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.” Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life
Kimberly Whitfield is the owner of Kimberly Inspiring Beauty in Strength, a fitness instructor at Michigan State University and Trinity A.M.E. Church; a bodybuilder, and a public speaker. Visit her on the web at kwinspires.com for a list of her classes.