How to achieve a piece of mind for the holidays

The holiday season can be a very stressful time. We’re often reminded of past adversity in our lives, from losses like divorce or losing a loved one or pet. For me, I’m reminded of losing my father to lung cancer and the stillborn death of my youngest daughter, Kennedy.  

Although heartache is unkind, we must remember to take time to be thankful for what we have and not dwell on what’s no longer in reach.  Here are a few healthy ways to do so:

“Focus on the positives and be grateful.” ~Katrina Bowden

Be grateful

The last quarter of the year is a great time to reflect on your success and challenges.  Be grateful for making it through the tough times and focus on how you have grown. Never compare yourself to others. Don’t focus on what’s absent in your life, but instead make a motivated plan to make positive changes!

Practice daily affirmations

Using affirmations can be empowering and boost your confidence! Remember, you are in control of your thoughts and emotions and have the ability to change your beliefs.  Start today, by identifying three to five things that you admire about yourself.  Afterward, include each in a short sentence or quote and write them on a note card.  Place each in a visible location and read them aloud daily.


Research an organization or group that is near and dear to your heart. Schedule a time to visit and learn how your personal gifts and time can be used to help.

Let go

Each year, I’m learning the importance of letting go. Don’t let a past occasion or loss interfere with your happiness. I believe it’s also wise to review your relationships and prepare an exit plan for those that may be toxic in your life.


Kimberly Whitfield is the owner of Kimberly Inspiring Beauty in Strength, a fitness instructor at Go Workout Fitness Center and Trinity A.M.E. Church; a bodybuilder, and a public speaker.  Visit her on the web at for a list of her classes. 


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